23 December 2008

Dear Beloved Daughter,

     I hope you won't throw me to the wolves for sending you this but, you know, sometimes I just have to put in my two cents worth.

     I believe you know how deeply I love you. And I hope you know that I wish only the best for you - the best life you can live, the best friends a person can have, the sweetest cherries on the tree - only the best for you.

     I borrowed these words from the book Until Today by Iyanla Vanzandt. It's a wonderful book I read each morning to help me get my head on straight before going out to embrace the day and I'll admit this one sparked some deep feelings in me. And when the tears had dried I felt much better. I wish you the same. I trust these words will help you find the best of everything for you:
     "Forgive your mother! Forgive her not for the things she has done or not done, for the things she has said or not said. Forgive her because it is the only way to open your heart to self-forgiveness. Forgive her not because you don't have a right to be upset about the way she has handled some things in her life and in your life. Forgive her not because she was right in making you feel wrong, or because she was wrong when she failed to acknowledge that you were right. Forgive your mother because until you do, there will be a void in your heart.

     Forgive your mother for the many, many times she was not the mother you wanted her to be. Forgive here for the times she did not do things the way you needed them done. Forgive your mother for not protecting you or speaking out in your behalf. Forgive her for not guiding you in the right direction and for the times she totally lost her direction, dragging you along with her. Forgive your mother for demanding things from you that she could not provide for you or for herself. Forgive your mother whether or not she did anything wrong or bad to you. Forgive her not because you are excusing whatever she did or however it affected you. Forgive your mother because holding judgements against her has a devastating impact on your soul. The judgements you hold will eventually break your heart. Forgive your mother because the truth is she did the best she could whether you would like to believe it or not.

     Until today, you may have been harboring judgments or negative opinions about your mother and the way she did or did not mother you. Just for today, forgive yourself for judging your mother. Once you do, there will be nothing left to forgive her for."

     Affirmation: " Today I am devoted to offering myself total forgiveness for the judgments I have held about and against my mother."

     Know also that in every moment of every day I hold you deep within my heart where you are surrounded by my love, my peace, and my admiration for you. Let 2009 be your best year ever.

I love you, PoppaRon